Originally published 6-1-2017. I decided to re-write it as I take one of my lessons about how I want to contribute from this Camino journey. Opinion writing is a challenge. Fran.
“So when you see me alone at the trailhead, notice the shin bruises, the sunburn, the dirt under my nails, and a sparkle in my eyes, but please, don’t call me brave. I am just doing the things that make me who I am.” – Annie Mac
A quick google search of bravery brings up 943,000 quotes with images. It’s a well used word and one that I often wonder about.
We need voices like Annie. People who remind us that life is about being who we are. Stripping it all back to what makes us feel passionate, contented and connected.
We shouldn’t need to feel brave to stand with our own opinions, on our own feet and to choose what fits in our life. We shouldn’t feel scared to feel vulnerable because we choose something different that doesn’t always fit the mould. Yet, sometimes we do. I do.
I don’t always fit the mould of many things and definitely not of an online travel writer. I won’t tell you every place we went to and I won’t write you a list of what to do in every city. There are plenty of people already doing that and it’s awesome, that’s their thing and they’re great at it.
Mostly, we wander, loosing ourselves as we sink into the beauty of landscapes, cities, sounds, tastes, feelings and people. It’s how I try to approach everyday life. Given that I love to travel and musing about life there’s plenty to dig into.
Like this moment.
Feeling the essence of where I am and noticing the magic is the ‘why’ I travel. One recent summer afternoon in Italy a Roman with sparkly eyes made a comment that has stuck in my mind ‘let’s seek the pleasure by standing in the shade’. That’s it – it’s really that simple isn’t it and a message that’s not just relatable to travel life (and no it wasn’t the sparkles).
Can you stop and stand in the shade because it’s pleasurable if you don’t have the time? Would we even hear the beauty of such a comment in a rush or if we’re focussed on tomorrow?
“Not all those who wander are lost” ~ J. R. R. Tolkien
It’s a common quote this one, but not easy. To give into the nature of wandering does require an ability to surrender. Yet, letting go seems contrary to everything we are being taught, told and sold.
If we listen to all the noise – there’s a way to do everything. There are items that’ll make everything easier. There’s that bucket list that needs ticking, trips to book – next year to plan and in the meantime, everyone is so ‘busy’. Which is fine if that’s working for you.
It doesn’t work for me, never has – that has to be ok too doesn’t it? To say I don’t do hustle because for me hustle and pleasure don’t mix.
I don’t feel brave creating and living my adventurous life. It’s who I am. I need to be connected to the outdoors. I need to hike, to have space, quiet and to keep it simple. Life isn’t a bucket list, it’s everyday. It’d be such a waste to tread through these days as though we just want to be somewhere else wouldn’t it?
So I dip into bravery to find my own place in a world that’s always changing and busy selling a life that doesn’t fit with standing in the shade. When the sun is harsh and I need the shade I face the harshness, those feelings and I step away from what and those who make me feel that life is a hustle.
Practiced daily it gets easier. It’s saying no to things so we can put our heart into what matters. It’s knowing when to call bullshit on what’s holding us back and who we listen to online and in life. It’s knowing that most of us already have what we need on our door step to live an adventurously, connected and creative life – every, ok, most days.
“Mountains are not stadiums where I satisfy my ambition to achieve, they are the cathedrals where I practice my religion.” – Anatoli Boukreev
Living honestly is not competing. It doesn’t matter how many countries someone has been to or what their life looks like or how their kids are dressed. What matters is that we are who we are and how we can look back at our own life – was it well lived and true? Are we living in our life today? Do we care about the right things?
My travel writing is my life of adventure, the people, the places, the feelings and the experiences, they’re all connected. I’ll always join the dots and write a story because I travel everyday in life. That is my travel writing style. It’s important to understand our voice, the one we contribute to the world, don’t you think?
As I continue to write I’m always amazed by the growth that accompanies it. It’s opened up a world of connection with those who see their life as a camino. Walking each day with intention and grace.
The wanderers who live in their lives, everyday, honestly. The ones who are growing themselves and encouraging a ‘real life’ around their love of travel or whatever it is that makes their heart flutter.
Adventuring for me isn’t brave, it’s just being who I am and I’m privileged because I can. Bravery well that’s the courage to shed and ‘to seek the pleasure in the shade’.
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5 thoughts on “Hiking the camino called life. A lesson from a sparkly eyed Roman.”
Sooo true!! I always think I want to EXPERIENCE a place and it’s people not simply go to SEE something. For me it’s about the people along the way. Hearing their stories.
I feel calmer and more content when moving forward but I don’t want to rush through feommplace to place.
I do have so many places I’d like to visit, though I don’t view them as a bucket list. More like places I hope to breathe in, soak up, absorb into myself. To learn and grow into a better me. And maybe just maybe leave something wonderful from myself with those I get to meet.
So much love and respect for you my Sweet. 💖☮️
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Yes, I hear all of your comments. I love your beautiful words. It is truly a gift that you share your kindness and big hearted love as you travel in each day of your life. I appreciate so much having connected with honest journey women on this writing adventure of mine. It’s why I write.
Love. Love. Love this.
It resonates so deeply with me; even though I don’t travel. If and when I do, then I will listen to any ‘sparkly eyed Roman’ and heed the advice! Did you know, by the way, that Leunig is a big influence in my life? Wise soul that one! A friend of mine used to use the JOMO hashtag , so I love it even more, now I know it’s origin. Thank you for your words dear girl xx
Thank you. Thank you. Thank you.
Oh but you do travel – deeply. I think you travel to the moon more than anyone I know and that is the kind of travel I want to read about.
Leunig – he nailed JOMO don’t you think. It is really a thing.